Luck, destiny, fate. It’s all the same thing to me. Used to make us feel more humble when we do something great or as an excuse as for why things are as they are. I believe we, as individuals, play the most significant part in why life is as it is. While there may be situations out of our control there is still much more we can chose if we are bold enough and confident enough to do so.
I am of course aware that some of us may be born into different circumstances and locations, some of us may have had wider range of options and opportunities available and we will all come from backgrounds where various aspirations (or not) are thrust upon us but we can, if we desire something enough, work towards making it a possibility. Like the rest of nature however we need the right environment in which we thrive. Working with social entrepreneurs to start up new enterprises was for me a way of working with individuals to help themselves thrive or seek to provide opportunities for others. I too loved what I was doing.
When people write of destiny we are often given the sense that we were all born to achieve something incredible, whatever that may be. All we have to do is search deep within ourselves to discover what our great purpose is. Easy. Really?
Most of us however I believe meander. Some of us come across things we’re great at, some of us are still searching. We are often given examples of great athletes, successful entrepreneurs, well known celebritries, career achievers or the financially rich yet where are the examples of Joe Bloggs just being brilliant and content in whatever they chose. Great mothers, fathers, plumbers, teachers; happy amateur runners, painters, musicians; examples of people living their own lives, reaching their own goals; successful in their own rights. Having run three marathons my best time is still four hours fifty three minutes but I finished and I’m still chuffed with that. The elite runners may wow me with their speed and dedication but it is the determination of those crossing the line later in the day that really blow my mind.
While there may be some element of “right time, right place” there is still a sense of putting ourselves out there, having a go and thereby enabling us to see what’s available. We meet people who spurn ideas, introduce us to other contacts or themselves become key to what happens next. This I think is the case with work, relationships and other personal goals. My cycle trip came about as I looked for something new and was told of the World Cycle Challenge. While this particular event was later cancelled it was through that I met my cycle buddy John. I never had a destiny of biking the world. In truth, I never had the big dream of cycling the world. I loved travel and loved my bike. What I had was a situation, an opportunity, an idea – a choice.
How we live is not pre-determined. We all have choices and as the old saying goes “I chose life” and we can all do that in our own way. Just be bold in whatever you want to do. Choose your destiny and don’t stop looking for new things to try.
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